Sometimes You Just Have to Ask for Help

Many of us pride ourselves on being strong & independent, pushing through challenges without asking for support. But true strength isn’t about doing everything alone—it’s about knowing when to ask for help.

     I struggle on the regular to ask for help. Mrs. Independent has been my name for a long time. I’ve always been someone who’d rather handle things myself than to ask someone & either a) not get the help I need, or b) get it thrown back in my face that I “owe them” later. That’s not the way to live. That’s stressful AF, but I’m slowly progressing towards being able to put requests out there. Closed mouths don’t get fed!

     I’m in a position right now where I need to ask for help in many situations. I have some people that I can turn to that’ll help without looking for something in return. With all that I’m carrying right now, I need a few lifelines thrown out for me. Here’s my self-assessment:

• Work: Right now, this aspect of life isn’t very stressful. When I changed roles, some of the stress was taken off my back. It can get sticky at times having to navigate through so many different personalities & opinions, but for the most part, I’m straight. On top of that, there are people who consistently ask if I need them to help with anything, & I’m super appreciative of that.
• Home: This is usually my biggest struggle. I’m very anal: everything has its place & I can’t deal with a messy house. And because I prefer things to be done a certain way, it’s hard for me to allow someone to help. However, this weekend, we’ll be having a house meeting so each person will have some responsibilities around the house. There’s no way I can work 8 hours, do stuff for my business after I clock out, cook for 7, clean whatever is out of order (in my eyes), & make sure everyone is where they need to be every day without cracking. 
• Business: I’m actually getting some help here. My business mindset coach is handling my website, giving me guidance, & holding me accountable. I have some systems in place that help with automating a few processes (scheduling posts for the week is Heaven sent!). My problem is I have so many ideas, & I don’t know how to prioritize them at times…leading to feeling overwhelmed. I’m learning to write down my thoughts & take things one day at a time, checking them off the to-do list as I accomplish them.

     Asking for help is a powerful form of self-care. It allows us to lighten our emotional & mental load, gain new perspectives, & receive the support we need to thrive. Whether it’s reaching out to a friend for encouragement, seeking professional guidance, or simply delegating tasks, asking for help can prevent burnout & enhance our overall well-being.

     Instead of seeing it as a weakness, view it as an act of self-respect, self-love, self-care. You deserve support, just as much as you give it to others. Next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a deep breath & remind yourself: help is available—you just have to ask.

What are some ways you ask for help? A sista could use some more ideas…